DR. NATALIE L.WINTERS
LICENSED PSYCHOLOGIST


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Dr. Natalie Winters has published many articles on various subjects, too many to put on this website.  If you find an area that interests you, please fill in the Contact Us page and Dr. Winters will be happy to send you a copy of her article.

Here is a list of some of her articles:

The Adolescent Struggle                                           Agoraphobia Is Different
Avoiding The Alcohol Trap                                       Bedwetting
Childhood Anxiety                                                    Depression and Suicide
Fears and Phobias                                                    Feuding In-Laws (Article Below)
Fighting Depression (Article Below)                         
Forms of Anxiety (ArticleBelow)
Irrational Fears or Phobias                                        Learning How to Relax
Nursing Home Guilt Trip                                           Premature Ejaculation
Problems with Femals Orgasm                                  Recognizing Addition                                              Turning Off The Hate                                                What is  A Clinical Psychologist?
When To Consider Psychological Help                      When to Seek Marital Help
Romantic Relationships in a Psychodrama
Training Group  (Article Below)

Below are the underlined articles

Romantic Relationships in a Psychodrama Training Group
Natalie L. Winters, Ed.D., TEP   

Since many people come from dysfunctional families, it is my desire as a therapist and trainer to develop a group atmosphere that reflects the workings of a healthy family, both nuclear and extended. Honesty, love, affection, respect, intimacy and openness are basic components of healthy family life. People agree and disagree, argue and forgive, come and go. They make choices about with whom they want to have specific relationships and in what way. It’s sociometry in full bloom. 

 

 In that vein, it’s my belief that adults in a group (except for the trainer) have the right to choose who they want to be involved with romantically. Therefore, such relationships sometimes occur in the training groups I run. One such situation concerning romantic involvement occurred in my training group recently.

Sarah and Jim met in group. There was instant positive tele between them and by the end of the first session they decided to have coffee together. From there on the relationship had a bumpy journey forward. He was smitten, she was very interested but reluctant. Ultimately, they developed a romantic relationship. He was fully committed and she partially, but willing to work at it. The progress of the relationship was known to the group and some psychodramatic work took place around it. The group supported the couple. In time, Sarah discovered she loved Jim but wasn’t in love with him and needed to express herself sensitively but honestly. 

Sarah revealed some of her feelings in a group session but said she would like to discuss the more intimate details privately with Jim. Group members encouraged them to go to another room, have their talk and come back to share with the group. Since the group was warmed up to working, another drama took place while they were gone and was near completion when the couple returned. After sharing with the protagonist, the group was ready and available for Sarah and Jim. 

 I asked Sarah and Jim to express individually what had occurred in their talk and to address each other as well. As they encountered one another through role reversal, the atmosphere was saturated with emotion. It was a rich, sentient moment. I wanted to maximize the experience, so I divided the group into two sub-groups, one group with Jim and one group with Sarah, and invited both groups to sit on the floor.  I told them that we would reverse sub-groups so that everyone would have a chance to share with Jim and Sarah. Each individual was deeply touched by the open and honest way in which the couple expressed their heartfelt emotions. In turn, the sharing was deep with several catharses, much warmth, caring and support. 

 

 Both Jim and Sarah felt accepted, understood and cared for. There was no evidence of blame or taking sides since group members were asked to identify with Jim and Sarah, i.e. “think of a time in your life when you felt the way Sarah does, think of a time when you felt the way Jim does.” 

When both sub-groups completed their sharing with each “protagonist,” Sarah and Jim were asked to sit in the center of the circle. This created an even more intimate atmosphere. As the group gathered around, the protagonists were asked to say the last things to each other for the evening that would help bring them to some closure, being careful to speak from themselves rather than about the other. Through tears and compassion the “drama” was completed. When they had finished, they joined in the circle as everyone stood for a closing group affirmation.

As group members began to leave, they continued to exhibit warmth, support and caring. They had shared in an honest completion of a relationship with its pain, sorrow and relief. They were part of the whole in the moment, involved with each other rather than secreted away from the dynamics of family living.

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 Feuding Inlaws 
                                                 Natalie L. Winters, Ed.D., TEP
How does a newly married couple handle in-laws who don't get along with each other?  Battling in-laws have the ability to drive a wedge into a marriage.  It is paramount, however, that you not side exclusively with YOUR parents.  Doing so, may drive your mate to defend his or her parents, further aggravating the problem. 

The two of you need to site down and talk -- being as honest about your feelings as possible.  Only when the two of you unite in support of each other can  you reasonable assess the problem with parents.

Parental strife inevitable puts a strain on your marriage. The problem is that you don't have much leverage in forcing parents to like each other.  In some way, it is your battle and yet it is not.  It's hard to stay neutral.  Negotiate with each other to determine the best way for each of you to handle your own parents and to deal with the other's parents.  If you do anything less, your own marital happiness, may be the real victim.

*******************************************************Forms of Anxiety
                                            Natalie L. Winters, Ed.D., TEP

Anxiety is uneasiness or fear about some forthcoming event or development.  At times it can be quite legitimate, even helpful.   Anxiety in response to real danger is part of our natural defense apparatus.  If we are anxious about swimming in shark-infested waters, we may choose not to go for a dip.

There are also everyday anxieties with which we learn to cope.  Most children are nervous and excited about the first day of school.  It would not be unusual for a person who gives a public address before a large audience to experience some worry and concern before the event.

On the other hand, it is possible for a person's nerves to become sensitized to the point where the slightest stimulus can bring intense reactions with alarming swiftness.  This can be ACUTE anxiety, usually characterized by sudden, periodic attacks, or CHRONIC anxiety, whose chief symptoms are fatigue, sleeplessness, headache, and mental exhaustion.

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FIGHTING DEPRESSION
                                                  
Natalie L. Winters, Ed.D., TEP

It is not unusual for people to feel depressed occasionally.  Situations at work or at home may create sad or confused feelings which can become depressing.

Often, after a short time, things may begin to work themselves out.  However, when depression persists and deepens, it can interfere with your ability to lead a normal life.  Depression can have may causes and is sometimes directly related to illness or to hormonal changes in the body.  Sometimes the transition from adolescence to adulthood can be difficult and depressing ss can middle age and the years after retirement.  Signs of depression include despondency and hopelessness, change in eating and sleeping patterns, poor concentration and general lethargy. 

A vacation, increased physical activity, enthusiasm for a new hobby and becoming active in understanding the feelings and causes can sometimes lift a person out of depression.

When self-help does not bring relief, however, you should seek professional help to help diagnose the cause of the depression and begin the process of pulling out of it.
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